The Big 'L' Word

Hello again, so I thought it would be a good time to write a little bit about LOVE and how I think it's scary and not really something you should say unless you mean it. Everyone says 'I love you' all the time. I think that the phrase is said far too much and far too sparingly; 'I love you'  is supposed to mean something, it isn't the same as liking someone LOADS it mean you're in love with someone. This is probably why I find the twelve year old girls posting pictures of them and their boyfriend with captions similar to 'I love my boyfriend so much' ridiculous. No you don't. It's very unlikely that you love anyone except members of your family. 
This is the reason I never throw the word 'love' about, even with my best friend, we never say 'I love you' unless we're taking the piss, we often change it to things like 'I lava you' or messing about and writing 'Ilybbz' or sometimes say 'And this is why I love you'. 
Adding things on or taking things away from this sentence completely changes all meanings of it and turns it into something more playful. 
I was talking to my friend SJ, who also has a blog; (http://eccentricobsessions.blogspot.co.uk/) and she seems to have similar views to me,
"how people who have been with their boyfriends or whatever for like a week and are like 'i love you loads baby' and all of that pisses me off because you dont love someone straight away; it takes time and you gradually fall in love with them"

I think what she said here is very important, it does take time to love someone and you can't just fall in love with someone, I guess some people do believe in love at first sight, but I don't, so I think this is a very valid point.
"I think only you will know when youre in love with someone because it feels different to anything else before and to be in love with someone you feel how they feel, like when they're upset, you feel upset, when they're hurting so do you, and when they're happy, it makes you happier than anything else in the world."
However I disagree with one of her points, due to me finding 'I love you' to mean something else to 'Love you'
"I think that between friends and stuff 'love' is thrown around, but like people do mean it, but they dont mean it to be 'in love' an like how people say there is a huge difference betweenn 'love you' and 'i love you' i dont really think makes a huge amount of difference but to be 'in love' with someone is different to just loving them"

I believe if you are to say 'I love you' you are inferring that you are in love with them and that if you just say 'love you' it means you could love them if you got to know them better or started to spend more time with them.

When talking to another friend, he said 'I love you' and I got a bit annoyed, because when people say it, I can't just say it back unless I actually believe I could be in love with them. This puts pressure on whoever you're saying it to to say it back. Also if someone were to say 'I love you' almost as a joke then you may be put in the awkward position where you say it back in a jokingly way to find out they were serious, this causes all kinds of misconceptions.

I'm not saying that I think love is stupid or that people should never say 'I love you'; I just believe that people should make sure they know what context they are saying it in because situations can be made embarrassing for them or the person they are saying it to.

Thank you for reading,

Harri